Day: September 13, 2017

More than just “Baby Blues”

Jeff stared at Mabel from behind the curtains. The baby had been crying for a while but Mabel sat there looking into space unperturbed.

Scared, confused and angry, Jeff stormed into the room and snapped at her “Babe, can’t you see David has been crying for too long?” Mabel looked at him with sad eyes, picked the baby and shoved him into Jeff’s arms before walking away.

David was born barely one week earlier and Mabel had never been the same since her return from the hospital. For someone that couldn’t wait for the birth of her baby, Mabel’s attitude scared Jeff. He felt like she hated her own child. He felt like his wife was possessed by some demon.

But what Jeff didn’t know was that his wife Mabel suffered from Post-Partum Depression and needed help and support.

Post-Partum depression (PPD) is a type of mood disorder associated with childbirth and studies show that 1 in 7 women experience this disorder. It also doesn’t just affect first time mums.

Along with postpartum depression, some women experience a rare and serious form of mental illness known as Post-partum psychosis. When a woman gets to this extent, she can cause grievous harm to herself and her baby if left unchecked.

As real as this disorder is, a lot of women have been called names and worse in Nigeria for feeling this way after they have had a baby. But this feeling is beyond their control and they need immediate help.

Husbands are in the best position to offer support and seek help for their wife if she has this disorder. But first, you need to know how to detect Post-partum depression.

Tune in to ARM Life Living Benefits show today on Smooth 98.1FM by 6.40pm (Lagos), 6.45pm (Abuja) and 6.00pm (PortHarcourt) to learn all the symptoms of Post-partum depression and what to do when you spot them.

There is also a gift voucher up for grabs at the end of the show. You don’t want to miss it!

 

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How can I turn my FOMO into JOMO?

Last month, we talked about F.O.M.O (Fear of missing out) and how to know if this fear is consuming you. This month, we’ll guide you with tips to channel your F.O.M.O into J.O.M.O (Joy of missing out).

Here are a few tips on how to harness your inner J.O.M.O

 

1. Be grateful. Learn to value what you already have. Take time out to appreciate the people and things around you; imagine what life would be without them? Being grateful for what you already have leaves you feeling content. You will no longer crave for what others have that you don’t.

 

2. Social media is not real life. You never really know how someone is feeling behind their tweets or Snapchat stories. Use social media to make real connections with people. Look past all the banter on social media (which are really hilarious by the way) and use social media to do something meaningful.

 

3. Pick up new habits to distract you from social media. Try investing for instance. I know you’re probably thinking “Finally they’ve gotten to the point where they try and sell me their product” Well the answer is yes and no. Yes, we might be trying to sell our services to you. But no, that isn’t the point. You’d be surprised how much money your money could be making for you. Of course there are other habits you could pick up that would harness your JOMO. But there is nothing as relaxing as making money; and investing offers you a chance to do this easily. You’re able to transition from FOMO which cause you to spend recklessly to JOMO by investing and actually making more money.

 

4. Find your niche in the social world and focus on that. Try and figure out what fun things you enjoy doing the most and make it the norm to do these things more regularly. For instance, let’s say you enjoy going to the club regularly and your pockets aren’t deep enough to do this as regularly as most “cool people” do. You can pick your favorite places to hang out at and frequent them once in a while. You will look even cooler for being selective and you’re saving money too! Do things because you want to do them and can afford to do them; not because it’s what other people are doing.

Yes we know JOMO sounds a bit weird, but so does FOMO – and it’s in the dictionary! Try saying it a couple more times and it might not sound as bad. You don’t even have to put a name to it. As long as it’s anti-FOMO, you’re good to go. So, the next time you see a post on social media, don’t feel left out; remember that you need to cut your coat according to your cloth! Focus on the positives and not the negatives.

Oh, and don’t forget to pick up investing as a habit.

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